Performers and public life
For the people who became someone before they became themselves.
If you are reading this, someone probably sent you a message from me and you want to know whether I am real. I am. I am a mental health nurse from the north of England, I have worked in mental health since 2001, and most of that time has been spent with people who are very good at what they do and quietly coming apart doing it.
This page is the whole offer, so nobody has to take my word for it in a DM.
Who it is for
Before it lands. While it is happening. Long after.
Actors, musicians, dancers, athletes, racing drivers, presenters, writers. Anyone whose work is done in front of an audience, and anyone who became publicly known before they were ready for it.
Success in this world does not arrive with instructions, and it does not arrive once. There is the bit before, when you have been told you are about to be big and you are waiting, and the waiting is its own kind of pressure. There is the bit when it lands, usually all at once: the job, the audience, the money that is not yours yet, and a lot of adults whose income depends on you seeming fine. And there is the long bit after, which nobody prepares you for: the show ends, the season is over, you retire at 34, or you are still famous at 45 and realise you have never once had a Tuesday with nothing in it, a friend who was not paid, or any idea who you would be if it stopped.
The industry looks after you brilliantly right up to the last day of filming, or the last race. Then everyone goes home and the hard bit starts with nobody in the room. That is the bit I work on, whichever part of it you are in.
What it is
Someone to sit with, who is not part of the machine.
Private, one to one, in person or remote. We talk about how you are actually doing versus how you are expected to look like you are doing. Pressure, perfectionism, the strange loneliness of being watched, what to do with an ordinary life when you have never had one, and the feeling of not being enough that sits underneath most high performers whether they say so or not.
Sometimes it is simpler than that. It is working out what you actually want, or building the skills to live in the world you find yourself in. Plain English. You will probably laugh at some point, because most of it is absurd when you say it out loud.
Two doors
Early career, no fee. The long haul, through the practice.
If you are at the start, a first big role, a first tour, a first season, a record deal, a funded seat in a driver programme, I am not charging. No fixed block of sessions and no sales call at the end. It lasts as long as it is useful and stops when it is not. I take a small number of people on this basis each year so I can do it properly.
Most of the people I see this way are in their twenties. Early in it means early in the career, not young.
If you have been in it a while, the work runs through my private practice at my normal rate. The coaching page explains what that work is, and I will tell you the rate when we speak. Same woman, same plain talk, same no labels. The difference is only who is paying, and I would rather be honest about that than dress it up.
What it is not
Not therapy. Not a label. Not a programme.
I am not going to see you every Tuesday for six years. I am not going to diagnose you with anything, and I do not do “and how does that make you feel”. I am not a sports psychologist, a life coach, or a wellness brand, and nothing about you will ever appear in my marketing, my newsletter or anyone’s press release.
If what you need is clinical, I will say so, and I will help you find it. That is part of the job too.
Who I am
The clinical bit, said plainly.
Registered Mental Health Nurse (BSc Mental Health Nursing), MSc Occupational Psychology.
NHS settings: community mental health, crisis teams, psychiatric liaison, PICU and forensic. Ten years since then with high performers in law, finance, sport and public life, including people whose names you would know. Trained across nine therapeutic and coaching modalities, none of which you will hear me name in a session.
I also run two businesses and I am a solo mum, so I know what it is to hold something up in public whilst being tired underneath it.
For agents, managers, parents and programme directors
The boring, important bits.
I am happy to speak to an agent, manager, parent or programme lead before anything starts and explain exactly what I do and do not do. Confidentiality is a given: nothing is shared with the team, the studio or anyone else without the person’s say so, unless someone is at risk. That holds whoever is asking and whoever is paying.
Professional indemnity through my Royal College of Nursing membership. Enhanced DBS, registered with the DBS Update Service, so it can be checked as current rather than taken on trust. Where someone is under 18, a parent or guardian is involved from the first conversation.
If you run a driver programme, an academy or a production with young leads and want to talk about what support looks like beyond wrap, I would like that conversation too.
Honest answers
Fair questions, answered honestly.
Do you only work with young people?
No. Most of the people I see on the no-fee basis are in their twenties, and the paid side of the practice runs to any age. Early means early in the career, not young. Someone who gets their first real break at 34 is in the same position as someone who gets it at 19, and often more alone in it.
Why is it free?
Because the people who most need someone outside the machine are usually the ones with the least money and the least say, at exactly the point everyone around them starts earning from them. I take a small number on that basis each year. It is not a trial, and there is no upgrade at the end of it.
Is this therapy?
No. I am not going to diagnose you with anything and this is not a substitute for treatment. It is someone clinical to think out loud with. If what you need is clinical, I will say so, and I will help you find it.
Will you tell my agent, my team or the production anything?
No. Nothing is shared with anyone without your say so, unless someone is at risk. That holds whoever asked me to speak to you and whoever is paying.
Next step
One email, or reply to the message.
Tell me who you are and what is going on, or nothing at all beyond wanting to talk. I read everything myself and I will reply myself.
info@stacythomson.co